ANGRY AT THE WORLD AND THE PEOPLE IN IT

A good friend of mine, working with a volunteer group, asked for my advice on what to say to a guy. I got all giggly inside, thinking she had a new fling. As it turns out, a married guy was hitting on her.

She knew he was married, he knew that that she knew he was married, and he still tried to slide his way into her bed. He tries to hug her, and kiss her, and flirt with her. She tells him he's a disgusting pig, and that he needs to stop disrespecting his family. She is stuck in a group with him, so she asks him about his wife frequently. He bags on her constantly. Then, that asshole still thinks he's a real charmer and can get my friend to like him.

Some people just never stop with the same old bullshit. My friend and I have talked at length about this douche bag, and we both agree on several things: this guy should not be with anyone, he needs to see a psychiatrist or therapist, and that this is definitely not the first time he has tried this crap on another woman.

The conversation then turned her ex-boyfriend. He lived with her, didn't have a job, and failed to contribute anything to the household. She would come home from a full time job, clean the house, cook dinner, get the kids bathed and in bed, do the dishes, and then finish up her wonderful day washing, drying, and then folding his laundry. For goodness sakes, she had to remind the man to take a damn bath.

Of course, looking back we laughed at what an idiot will do in the name of love. There were times when she'd decide that enough was enough, and tell him to straighten up and help out. They'd fight, he'd moan and groan about his lot in life, and then he would get his shit together.

At least, for a few weeks he would resist the urge to be a total loser. He would help out around the house and look for employment. But then it would be back to the same old bullshit. She'd threaten to kick him out, and he would shape up for a bit. Then he would slip into the same tired old routine.

They obviously broke up, but it took her years to realize he wouldn't change his revolting habits. They went through a constant and vicious cycle of disrespect, laziness, anger, and then false hope.

It just makes me so angry and sad that people like that can skate by in life. It's sickening to see these assholes take advantage of good, hardworking people. It makes me feel helpless to watch the same old bullshit cycle around, and to see my friends or family stuck in it.

I just want to tell these people how worthless and disgusting they are. I wish I could cast them away to another world, far away from the people I care about.

Of course, I have very little right to judge others so harshly. I've made plenty of mistakes in my life, and I have gone through cycles of laziness as well. But, I'd like to think I'm better than the people I'm so angry about. I hope that I don't cause my friends and family such drama and heartache.

OK, deep breath. No more poisonous thoughts for today. It sure felt good to get that out, and I know that I can't change other people or the world sometimes.

Anger Issues - I don't have them.

I've heard people tell me that I'm an "Angry Person", and say it like they meant "Bad" instead of "Angry". I've got a few choice words for people like that. You will find them peppered through out this blog.

Now come on people. Why is it wrong to feel Angry? I think people associate Anger with negative actions. Yes, it's true that Anger can cause people to act rashly or harshly. Anger can also make you passionate about a cause, a wrong-doing, or an injustice, for example. I'd say Martin Luther King Jr. was pretty Angry regarding discrimination in the south. He probably got mad when they got his order wrong in the drive-thru.

Most people will argue (at this point) that it matters what you get Angry about. There's a big difference between the civil rights movement and a cheeseburger! You shouldn't be Angry over a cheeseburger, for goodness sake.

Ah, not so, my closed-minded friend.

Say someone gets my order wrong at the drive-thru, and I feel Angry. So, I shouldn't feel Angry? What should I feel? Happy, Sad, or perhaps Afraid? Feelings are feelings, and no one has the right to dictate how you should or shouldn't feel.

What really matters is how you ACT. Now at this point, I could yell, curse, and throw my cheeseburger back at them, or I could politely ask them to fix it and wait patiently while they do so. Either way, I'm mad because someone didn't take my order correctly. The difference would be that I don't act like a total buffoon about the situation.

Now, let's look at the civil rights movement. What if no one was Angry about being treated wrongly? What if they were just Sad and Afraid? I will tell you this, with passion in my heart and Anger behind my words, that there wouldn't have been a civil rights movement.

I believe Anger is an important emotion. If we didn't have Anger in our hearts, we'd all be doormats. If there was no anger in the world, there would be nothing to temper several of our other emotions. Hatred, Fear, and Greed would run wild with only a slim chance at being checked.

Only ignorant and bland people will preach against being Angry. These are the same cretins that would speak against being Afraid.

When faced with a challenge, I've heard, "Come on! Don't be Afraid! Just do it!"

Again, no one has the right to tell you how to feel. It's fine to be Afraid. It's what you do about it that's important. Completing a task in spite of feeling Afraid is called Courage.

In conclusion, I am an Angry Person who is Afraid sometimes, but I am also undeniably a Good Person.